The reality is that if you look after yourself, you'll feel better. And in feeling good about yourself, your positive approach will affect those around you. So what's the point of being a self-denying trooper who has to get all the work done before she rewards herself? When I do that, I end up resenting my partner, because he has the knack of ignoring the dirty floor or dishes when he's tired. A skill I am still working on.
What I have also learned is that if I look after myself, do things that I love regularly and give myself time out when I need it, my family and community benefit. I bounce back, with more ideas and energy than what would be the case if I had simply kept trudging on.
So, here's a Self Care Quiz to test where you are at (on the right hand side of this page). 10 Questions. Not hard.
Your score may not be as high as you anticipated. If it isn't, use it as a really great excuse to look after yourself more. Some things are easy to change. Others, like leaving a job, are big. Go ahead and look after yourself. You're worth the investment. After all, think of all the time you have to spend with you over the rest of your life.
And if you score a perfect 10 - well done. Now go and inspire a friend or colleague to love life the way you do.
I'd love to know what you think of the quiz and your score - comments welcome!
-Janoel Liddy is passionate about girls and women recognizing and acting on their needs to lead a satisfying life. She teaches puberty and wellbeing to girls and boys in schools, facilitates workshops and retreats and works with groups in TAFE, university and community organisations in training and events. She is a mother of two with her partner of over two decades and dances, cooks, reads and writes when she can and must.